17 July 2013
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There is a lot in this insight. It probably could have been broken into
two insights easily. In any case, this insight deals with how we are to
treat people and how we are to interact. Though it begins with
children, the truths when applied to children can also be applied to
adults. The truth is that we should never try and get energy from other.
We should never compete with other human beings in order to try and
feel that buoyancy that can only truly come from the universe and
correct interaction with it. WE are not creatures of infinite energy. We
are a finite reservoir. We are a conduit. We hold only what we need, if
we are in tune with the universe. Yet the universe’s energy is infinite
and constantly available to those who need it.
The initial buoyancy that comes from receiving and giving energy
unconsciously to a person is that it is unconscious. Our giving and our
receiving happen without expecting. The energy flows from the universe,
to us, and then to the other person. The process is the same for the
other person as well. However, our attraction to the opposite sex can
often lead to us cutting ourselves off from the energy in the universe.
The book exhorts us to develop platonic relationships with people first.
At first I did not know how that would be beneficial, but then I
realized that a platonic relationship does not have the same level of
commitment or attachment as a romantic relationship. To this end, they
are preferred because they can be ended without much difficulty.
All of the people we meet have messages for us. If we have a
conversation with them and we do not receive a message from them, then
it is not that they did not have a message, it is that we somehow missed
it. The truth is that to truly interpersonally interact with someone,
we have to appreciate them fully, their natural selves. In doing that we
give them energy and in doing so help them discover the message they
have for us and help ourselves discover the message we have for them.
If it is perceived that a person we are interacting with is operating in
a control drama we first must realize that the control dramas are
covert ways to get energy and nothing more. We need to make sure not to
assume the matching control drama. As a refresher the control dramas
are: Aloof (Create Interrogators), Interrogator (creates Aloof),
Intimidator (Creates Poor Me’s), and Poor Me. The way to call out a
control drama is to take notice of a person’s tone and body language and
simply ask questions regarding it. I believe that once they realize
that you are invested in them and that you will give them energy freely,
they will stop trying to take. More importantly, they will be forced to
explain why they are acting the way they are acting. It can no longer
be a covert manipulation.
The two things that made the stuck the most out to me were the
discussion on how to treat children and by extension others and how to
give and receive messages.
The discussion on how to treat children stuck out to me most because I
intend to raise some of my own in the near future and I always wondered
how to get rid of that sibling rivalry and Oedipus/electra complex. In
this insight I have the answer, but after having read it I wonder if I
have the energy, the patience and the desire to devote all of my time to
my children. I want them to grow up happy and healthy and I want to
make sure that I provide the right environment for such growth.
How to give and receive messages stuck out to me because what they
suggest in the book seems to require us as a human race to simply slow
down and truly observe and see whom we need to talk to in order to get
the answers we need. I do wonder if we are prepared for such a thing.
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